Hey, welcome back! I'm so glad you're here. This is the first episode in a three-part series where I’m diving into the worst dating advice out there for women over 40—yes, we’re going there! Today, we're peeling back the layers on some of the most misguided advice that's circulating around, why it's so damaging, and what to do instead. Spoiler: this advice isn't just ineffective; it actually pulls us away from genuine connection.

Episode Highlights:

1. The Truth About Inauthentic Dating Scripts

We've all heard the tips on what to text or say to keep a guy hooked: "magic phrases" and rigid scripts meant to "win him over." But following this type of advice? It only leads to what I call “verbal constipation.” Holding back our real selves for fear of losing someone, or waiting for the “perfect moment” to speak, keeps us from ever being seen or truly connecting.

2. Why ‘Playing It Cool’ Keeps Us Stuck

Sometimes we’re told to *wait* and *hold back,* or to never share too much too soon. But when we’re not honest or open, we end up projecting a version of ourselves that isn’t real. And, surprise—this keeps us attracting people who aren’t aligned with what we truly want. Real connection requires spontaneity and authenticity, not strategy.

3.Limiting Beliefs That Hold Us Back

There are a few core beliefs that drive us to follow this harmful advice, like:

- Fear of being fully seen (what if I'm "too much"?)

- Worry that the right person doesn't exist for us

- Settling for pseudo-relationships over real ones because it seems better than being alone

These beliefs create a pattern where we end up chasing after people who aren’t truly available or interested.

4. A New Approach: Embracing Authenticity in Love

If you’re tired of the chase, the answer starts with making the decision to show up as your *true self*. In this episode, I share ways to get started on that journey, including practical tips like tuning into what you genuinely want in a relationship. Take a few moments to imagine the type of life and feelings you want with a partner—these are the real markers of compatibility, not just surface-level traits.

This is only part one! We’ll keep this exploration going next week by looking at even more bad dating advice women are given and dive deeper into how we can flip the script (authentically!) to make real connections.

Thanks for joining me on this journey—remember, real love is closer than you think. See you next week for Part Two!

If you’re a single woman dating over 40 and feeling like guys keep ghosting you for reasons you just can't understand—this episode is for you. I’m breaking down the top three dating mistakes I see as a love coach and the underlying limiting beliefs that keep you stuck. Let’s get real about what’s holding you back from finding a truly devoted relationship with Mr. Right.

Here’s what I cover in this episode:

• Dating Mistake #1: "The Spark Obsession" Ever felt that electric spark and thought, “This is it!” only to ignore red flags as they pile up? I dive into why that intense excitement can often lead us to overlook compatibility and safety. Spoiler: it's rooted in the need for excitement, which can be a limiting belief keeping us in patterns that don’t serve us.
• Dating Mistake #2: "The Scarcity Trap" Sometimes, it’s easy to tell yourself, “There aren’t enough good guys my age,” so you stay with someone hoping their potential will shine through. I’ll discuss how this scarcity mindset leads to endless chances for Mr. Not-Quite-Right—and how to move past it so you stay open to a truly healthy connection.

• Dating Mistake #3: "Over-Compassion" We all want to be compassionate and understanding, but sometimes this trait can become a trap, leading us to ignore our own needs. I’ll share how to set healthy boundaries and avoid settling just to keep the peace.

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Hey, friends! I’m so excited you’re here for today’s episode because we’re diving into a topic that’s near and dear to my heart—what I call "Pinch Me Love." You know that feeling when a relationship feels so good, so fulfilling, that you almost have to pinch yourself to believe it's real? Well, we’re going to explore that today, and I can't wait to share my insights and experiences with you.

What We Talked About:

- Defining "Pinch Me Love":It's so easy to focus on what we don’t want in love, but what about what we *do* want? I walk you through why it’s so important to define the kind of love you’re looking for—especially if you’re navigating dating after 40.

- Real Client Stories: I share some heartwarming emails from clients who’ve found their version of *Pinch Me Love* through working with me. You’ll hear stories about how they went from challenging relationships to feeling safe, empowered, and connected in ways they never imagined.

- My Own Journey to Love: After being single into my 40s, I finally found the kind of love I always wanted. I talk about how my husband and I share emotional safety, laughter, and even those small, intimate moments that make me feel so grateful to have him by my side.

Key Takeaways:

- *Pinch Me Love* isn’t about perfection or living in a fairy tale. It’s about finding a love where you feel emotionally safe, deeply connected, and truly seen for who you are—flaws and all.

- Even in the midst of disagreements or tough times, *Pinch Me Love* means you and your partner are committed to working through it with empathy, patience, and dedication. You don’t have to be constantly on the hamster wheel of “self-improvement”—you can just *be* yourself, and that’s enough.

- It’s okay if you’ve never experienced this type of love before, or even if you can’t fully imagine it yet. The key is staying open to the possibility that it’s out there for you—better than you ever thought possible.

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com

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Hey, friends! Get cozy and grab your favorite drink, because today, I'm sharing my deeply personal love story—the "Shero's Journey." This is my path of self-discovery, healing, and finding the love I had been searching for my entire life.

In this episode I am going to talk about the moment I decided that had to do things differently if I wanted a different result, what led up to that, and what happened when I got the support I needed to make lasting change and fins authentic love.

I knew I had to do things differently. I started facing the deep-seated trauma I had avoided for years, connected with my inner child, and sought support—letting others help me heal. I embraced the discomfort and took real steps to break the cycle.

But here’s the real message: I had to learn to show up as my true self, to stop fitting myself into someone else’s life and narrative. The love I found was a reflection of the work I did on myself, setting boundaries, learning to express my needs, and building a relationship based on mutual respect and growth.

This journey wasn’t easy—it required me to get uncomfortable, face the hard truths, and step out of my comfort zone. But the love I found on the other side? It was worth every difficult moment.

If you’re feeling like it’s too late for you, or that you’ll never break out of your patterns, I want you to know that it’s never too late. You can create your own love story, and it doesn’t have to look like mine. You deserve the kind of love that makes you feel seen, heard, and valued, and you *can* attract it by connecting to your authentic self.

I hope my story brings you inspiration, hope, and the belief that love is closer than you think.

Key Takeaways:

- Breaking patterns starts with facing your inner struggles and seeking help when needed.

- It’s never too late to create the love story you desire.

- Authenticity is the key to attracting real, lasting love.

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com

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Resources I Created Just For You

Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com

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Welcome to the very first episode of Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys! If you’re a single woman over 40 looking for Mr. Right but often find yourself dating the wrong guys, you’re in the right place! Join me your host, Truly Eleanor, as I share my journey from struggling with relationships to finding the love of my life.

In this inaugural episode, I open up about my own “Shero’s love journey,” discussing my decades of dating mishaps and how I finally broke the cycle. With 15 years of coaching women and a wealth of personal experience, I am here to guide you through practical tips and inspiration to go after the love you deserve.

What You’ll Learn:

• The Importance of Recognizing Patterns: Discover why simply telling yourself not to fall for unavailable guys isn’t enough and how to create new patterns for success in dating.
• Overcoming Limiting Beliefs: Explore the biggest beliefs that keep women over 40 single and how to challenge them.
• Defining Healthy Love: What does "Pinch Me Love" really look like? Learn about healthy relationship dynamics and how to identify them.
• The Worst Dating Advice: Navigate the murky waters of online dating advice and find out what to avoid to save yourself time and heartache.
• My Let Love In Technique: Gain insights into my unique approach to attracting lasting love based on her personal and professional journey.

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com

Connect With Me On Facebook:

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Resources I Created Just For You

Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com

Detox Unavailable Guys Kit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here https://www.trulyeleanor.com/dugkit

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Are you a single woman over 40 and over your non-existent love life?

Do you struggle to find lasting love with the right guy because you are drawn to unavailable guys, despite knowing deep down you are sabotaging yourself?

Hey, I’m Truly Eleanor, your host of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys podcast. I’m an Intuitive Love Coach who found Mr. Right in my 40s after breaking my pattern of attracting unavailable guys on repeat-and you can too!

This podcast was born from years of successfully coaching women worldwide out of the same patterns I was stuck in. My mission is to help single women over 40 find the fastest path to Mr. Right without wasting time on UGs (unavailable guys).

In season 1, we’ll focus on effective tools to trust your intuition and break the pattern of chasing after love. I’ll share empowering dating tips, advice to avoid, and how to cut through the BS.

X No complicated, inauthentic phrases or scripts to “keep a guy’s interest”

X No talk of getting into your Divine Feminine to find love

X No advice that focuses on what guys need from you

Yes to feeling inspired

Yes to being your true self in love and life!

Yes to trusting yourself and listening to your intuition

When I’m not inspiring women to find love after 40, you can find me having a laughing fit with the love of my life, baking my heart out in the kitchen or owning my GenX ways: metallic eyeshadow and my old school journal!

If you’re ready to get take the first step, sign up for my free challenge at: www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com

Love is closer than you think!

xo Eleanor

Hey there! This is Part 3 of our series, The Worst Dating Advice for Women Over 40, and let me tell you, this one gets a little spicy! We're diving into some of the most toxic, unhelpful dating advice out there and flipping it on its head. Spoiler: If you've ever felt like you needed a PhD in "understanding men" to find love, this episode is for you.

Here’s what we’ll unpack:

• Why advice focused on “attracting the guy” often backfires
• How hyper-focusing on men’s behaviors keeps you stuck
• My personal story of dating insecurity and toxic empathy—and how I turned it around
• The #1 reason women chase unavailable men (and how to stop doing it!)

Dating should not feel like a high-stakes game where you're constantly analyzing, second-guessing, and morphing into someone else to fit what you think a guy wants. Trust me, I’ve been there, and I want to help you break free from this exhausting cycle.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

How to shift your focus back to yourself and your true desires

Why authenticity (quirks, messiness, and all!) is your superpower in love

Simple, powerful techniques to stay grounded, confident, and in your body during dates

The surprising reason repelling the *wrong* guys is a win

The right guy will love you—exactly as you are. You don’t need to overanalyze or overperform. When you embrace your authenticity, you naturally become magnetic to someone who truly values the real you.

Next week, we’ll dive into my signature framework for transforming your dating patterns and finally finding lasting love. Trust me, this is the game-changer you’ve been waiting for!

Remember, love is closer than you think.

See you next week! Until then, remember: You’re amazing, lovable, and worthy of the love you desire.

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com

Connect With Me On Facebook:

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Resources I Created Just For You

Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com

Detox Unavailable Guys Kit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here https://www.trulyeleanor.com/dugkit

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Welcome to part two of this juicy three-part series where I'm diving deep (and yes, it’s getting a little controversial!) into some of the worst dating advice floating around for women over 40. Today, I'm taking on the concept of "divine feminine energy" and why this advice, while alluring, might be the very thing holding you back.

In this episode, I’ll share some personal stories and insights from my journey—not just as someone who has navigated this advice herself but as a spiritual teacher who’s worked in the energy healing world for decades.

I totally get why “finding your divine feminine” sounds like a magic solution to all our dating woes. We’ll talk about why it feels so shiny and seductive, especially if you've been told that embracing a “feminine” energy is the key to finally meeting your soulmate.

Beneath this advice is often a subtle (or not-so-subtle) message that something about you isn’t good enough. I’ll break down how this mindset can make you feel unworthy and how it turns dating into an exhausting performance instead of an authentic connection.

Instead of chasing a prescribed “feminine energy,” I’m going to show you how to attract genuine connection by being fully present, authentic, and unapologetically YOU. I’ll explain why your most attractive quality is not about how well you "do" feminine but how deeply you show up as yourself.

The "Let Love In" Technique

If this resonates, I’ll share a bit about the “Let Love In” method I teach in my "Pinch Me Love" course. This isn’t about fixing what's “wrong” with you; it’s about peeling back the layers to get to your true, whole self.

Remember, you don’t have to become anyone other than who you are to find love. The most powerful thing you can do is embrace your real, messy, beautiful self—and show up with an open heart. I can’t wait to hear what you think about today’s episode, so tune in, and let’s get real about finding love over 40.

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com

Connect With Me On Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanor

https://www.facebook.com/officialtrulyeleanor/

Resources I Created Just For You

Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com

Detox Unavailable Guys Kit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here https://www.trulyeleanor.com/dugkit

Instagram: Be sure to follow me and DM me your burning questions about love here