Hey, welcome back! I'm so glad you're here. This is the first episode in a three-part series where I’m diving into the worst dating advice out there for women over 40—yes, we’re going there! Today, we're peeling back the layers on some of the most misguided advice that's circulating around, why it's so damaging, and what to do instead. Spoiler: this advice isn't just ineffective; it actually pulls us away from genuine connection.

Episode Highlights:

1. The Truth About Inauthentic Dating Scripts

We've all heard the tips on what to text or say to keep a guy hooked: "magic phrases" and rigid scripts meant to "win him over." But following this type of advice? It only leads to what I call “verbal constipation.” Holding back our real selves for fear of losing someone, or waiting for the “perfect moment” to speak, keeps us from ever being seen or truly connecting.

2. Why ‘Playing It Cool’ Keeps Us Stuck

Sometimes we’re told to *wait* and *hold back,* or to never share too much too soon. But when we’re not honest or open, we end up projecting a version of ourselves that isn’t real. And, surprise—this keeps us attracting people who aren’t aligned with what we truly want. Real connection requires spontaneity and authenticity, not strategy.

3.Limiting Beliefs That Hold Us Back

There are a few core beliefs that drive us to follow this harmful advice, like:

- Fear of being fully seen (what if I'm "too much"?)

- Worry that the right person doesn't exist for us

- Settling for pseudo-relationships over real ones because it seems better than being alone

These beliefs create a pattern where we end up chasing after people who aren’t truly available or interested.

4. A New Approach: Embracing Authenticity in Love

If you’re tired of the chase, the answer starts with making the decision to show up as your *true self*. In this episode, I share ways to get started on that journey, including practical tips like tuning into what you genuinely want in a relationship. Take a few moments to imagine the type of life and feelings you want with a partner—these are the real markers of compatibility, not just surface-level traits.

This is only part one! We’ll keep this exploration going next week by looking at even more bad dating advice women are given and dive deeper into how we can flip the script (authentically!) to make real connections.

Thanks for joining me on this journey—remember, real love is closer than you think. See you next week for Part Two!

If you’re a single woman dating over 40 and feeling like guys keep ghosting you for reasons you just can't understand—this episode is for you. I’m breaking down the top three dating mistakes I see as a love coach and the underlying limiting beliefs that keep you stuck. Let’s get real about what’s holding you back from finding a truly devoted relationship with Mr. Right.

Here’s what I cover in this episode:

• Dating Mistake #1: "The Spark Obsession" Ever felt that electric spark and thought, “This is it!” only to ignore red flags as they pile up? I dive into why that intense excitement can often lead us to overlook compatibility and safety. Spoiler: it's rooted in the need for excitement, which can be a limiting belief keeping us in patterns that don’t serve us.
• Dating Mistake #2: "The Scarcity Trap" Sometimes, it’s easy to tell yourself, “There aren’t enough good guys my age,” so you stay with someone hoping their potential will shine through. I’ll discuss how this scarcity mindset leads to endless chances for Mr. Not-Quite-Right—and how to move past it so you stay open to a truly healthy connection.

• Dating Mistake #3: "Over-Compassion" We all want to be compassionate and understanding, but sometimes this trait can become a trap, leading us to ignore our own needs. I’ll share how to set healthy boundaries and avoid settling just to keep the peace.

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Hey, friends! I’m so excited you’re here for today’s episode because we’re diving into a topic that’s near and dear to my heart—what I call "Pinch Me Love." You know that feeling when a relationship feels so good, so fulfilling, that you almost have to pinch yourself to believe it's real? Well, we’re going to explore that today, and I can't wait to share my insights and experiences with you.

What We Talked About:

- Defining "Pinch Me Love":It's so easy to focus on what we don’t want in love, but what about what we *do* want? I walk you through why it’s so important to define the kind of love you’re looking for—especially if you’re navigating dating after 40.

- Real Client Stories: I share some heartwarming emails from clients who’ve found their version of *Pinch Me Love* through working with me. You’ll hear stories about how they went from challenging relationships to feeling safe, empowered, and connected in ways they never imagined.

- My Own Journey to Love: After being single into my 40s, I finally found the kind of love I always wanted. I talk about how my husband and I share emotional safety, laughter, and even those small, intimate moments that make me feel so grateful to have him by my side.

Key Takeaways:

- *Pinch Me Love* isn’t about perfection or living in a fairy tale. It’s about finding a love where you feel emotionally safe, deeply connected, and truly seen for who you are—flaws and all.

- Even in the midst of disagreements or tough times, *Pinch Me Love* means you and your partner are committed to working through it with empathy, patience, and dedication. You don’t have to be constantly on the hamster wheel of “self-improvement”—you can just *be* yourself, and that’s enough.

- It’s okay if you’ve never experienced this type of love before, or even if you can’t fully imagine it yet. The key is staying open to the possibility that it’s out there for you—better than you ever thought possible.

I hope you enjoyed the show! Please hit subscribe and leave a review and if you’re ready to take the fastest path to Mr. Right, be sure to join us for the Detox Unavailable Guys Challenge at www.stopchasingunavailableguys.com

Connect With Me On Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/trulyeleanor

https://www.facebook.com/officialtrulyeleanor/

Resources I Created Just For You

Blog/Meditations: visit my website to download my meditations and get up to date love advice to help you find Mr. Right after 40 here www.trulyeleanor.com

Detox Unavailable Guys Kit: Ready to dive in? get your very own toolkit to help you find Mr. Right without wasting any more time on unavailable guys here https://www.trulyeleanor.com/dugkit

Instagram: Be sure to follow me and DM me your burning questions about love here