Keywords masculinity, toxic masculinity, emotional expression, sexual shame, healing, therapy, male identity, self-love, shame, vulnerability, sexuality, attachment, pornography, parenting, communication, body image, affection, children, sex education, emotional health Summary In this conversation, Efrain and Sam Jolman explore the complexities of masculinity, the challenges men face in expressing emotions, and the impact of shame on male sexuality. Sam shares insights from his book, 'The Sex Talk You Never Got,' discussing the importance of understanding and reclaiming the essence of masculinity while addressing the issues of toxic masculinity and the subtle forms of sexual abuse that can shape a man's identity. The dialogue emphasizes the need for men to embrace their emotional vulnerabilities and to break the silence surrounding their sexual experiences. In this conversation, Sam Jolman discusses the profound impact of early experiences of touch and affection on emotional health and sexuality. He explores the complexities of pornography, emphasizing the need for curiosity and understanding in overcoming its effects. The dialogue shifts to the importance of addressing children's curiosity about sex, advocating for open and ongoing conversations to foster healthy attitudes. Finally, Jolman highlights the significance of parents addressing their own sexual shame to create a safe space for their children to ask questions and learn about sexuality in a healthy context. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Sam Jolman 04:38 The Essence of Masculinity 06:35 Understanding Toxic Masculinity 10:37 Shame and Emotional Expression in Men 13:49 Healing Sexual Shame 17:49 The Impact of Subtle Sexual Abuse 21:44 Breaking the Silence on Sexual Experiences 26:46 The Impact of Touch and Affection 28:56 Understanding Pornography and Its Effects 33:37 Navigating Children's Curiosity About Sex 40:45 The Importance of Open Conversations About Sex 49:26 Outro.mp4 Sam Jolman My guest today is Sam Jolman. Sam is a trauma therapist with over twenty years of experience specializing in men’s issues and sexual trauma recovery. Being a therapist has given him a front row seat to hear hundreds of men and women share their stories. His writing flows out of this unique opportunity to help people know and heal their stories, and find greater sexual wholeness and aliveness. He received his master’s in counseling from Reformed Theological Seminary and was further trained in Narrative Focused Trauma Care through the Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. Sam lives in Colorado with his wife and three sons. Together, they enjoy exploring the best camping spots in Colorado in a pop-up camper. Sam goes to therapy, loves fly fishing and can often be found trying to catch his breath on the floor of his local CrossFit gym. During our conversation we discuss topics out of his latest book “The Sex Talk you Never Got” Reclaiming the Heart of Sexual Masculinity” I wish you great insights and healing from this episode of Fatherhood from the Heart More on Sam: https://www.samjolman.com/ https://samjolman.substack.com/ https://www.instagram.com/samjolman/ https://www.facebook.com/samjolman My Information Thank you for taking the time to listen to my podcast. If you want to learn more about me and my coaching offers, visit my website www.fatherhoodfromtheheart.com If you liked the podcast please follow it on one of the following platforms which you can access over this link https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/efrain-martinez-zuviria80 Or on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkegABl1i7roe6NU2NA9OHA I would appreciate if you like, share and commend on the show and I would be grateful if you could leave me a nice review so that it can grow and reach all who could benefit from the wisdom of my guests. For regular updates follow me on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfromtheheart/
