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Have you ever considered the lasting echo your words might leave in someone's life? Join me, Jim Cunningham, on the Unscripted Mind as we unravel the enigmatic power that our everyday language holds over personal connections, self-perception, and the resilience we muster in the face of life's challenges. In a heart-to-heart conversation inspired by the profound insights of Carol Dweck and John Gottman, we'll reveal how the seemingly innocuous labels we assign to children, like "smart," can inadvertently set them on a path of risk-aversion and dishonesty, while the ratio of positive-to-negative interactions can make or break the strength of our relationships. This episode is not just a look at the psychology behind our speech—it's an invitation to become architects of encouragement, crafting our dialogues to uplift and empower those within our sphere of influence.

We often forget to stop and express gratitude, but imagine the cascading impact your words of thanks could have. As we conclude our journey through the spoken and unspoken intricacies of our daily discourse, I challenge you to act on the power of appreciation, to see the remarkable changes it can inspire in both the giver and receiver. This episode is for those ready to embrace the unpredictable narrative of life with intention and curiosity, recognizing that each phrase we choose is a brushstroke in the larger picture of our relationships. So come along and let's forge a community where thoughtful communication is not just practiced, but celebrated.

References

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3. Dweck, C. S. (2006). Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. New York: Random House.
4. Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York: Three Rivers Press. (While focused on marriage, Gottman's research on positive-to-negative interaction ratios applies to other relationships, including parent-child interactions.)
5. Pfiffner, L. J., Rosen, L. A., & O'Leary, S. G. (1985). The efficacy of an all-positive approach to classroom management. [Research Support, Non-U.S. Gov't]. Journal of Applied Behavior Analysis, 18(3), 257– 261.
6. Simonsen, B., Fairbanks, S., Briesch, A., Myers, D., & Sugai, G. (2008). Evidence-based practices in classroom management: Considerations for research to practice. Education & Treatment of Children, 31(3), 351–380. https://doi.org/10.1353/etc.0.0007

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