I sit down with Saghar, who I've known for almost 20 years - we worked together at the YWCA in Regina back in the day. We're two moms, always connected by creativity and navigating the complexities of life. This time, we get into the guilt that comes back in three hours, even when you've done everything right.

Here's what you'll learn:

• The 3 mom burnout warning signs to watch for
• Reactive vs. preventative self care - and which one you're actually doing
• Why mom guilt still hits, even when you do everything "right"
• Why creativity isn't optional - it's survival
• The one question that changes everything
  

To see the full blog, Kayla's credentials, and complete show notes, head to kaylahuszar.com/are-you-really-living-mom.

Summer is ending, and if you can already feel the shift in your body, you are not the only mom who feels it too.

For moms with school-aged kids, fall usually means earlier mornings, extracurriculars, rushed routines, and the return of the morning meltdowns nobody misses. Before September speeds everything back up, this is an invitation to pause.

In this ten-minute end-of-summer practice, Kayla guides you through meditation, journaling, creative reflection, and a little space to notice what this season actually was. There is no pressure to make it beautiful or meaningful, just space to notice what is actually true for you right now.

You will work through a simple six-word prompt for naming what summer felt like, a body check-in, and a visualization that turns your inner world into a landscape. From there, you can draw, collage, paint, or write, whatever feels most accessible, and reflect on what the season has taught you.

This practice is for the mom carrying stress, tenderness, guilt, or the general weight of a season changing. A small way to close out summer with a little more presence and a little less pressure.

Kayla also shares an invitation to Undermothered, her fifteen-session live series beginning September 8, 2026 for moms who want to care for themselves more intentionally and show up with a little more room, patience, and self-understanding.

Why does getting everyone out the door in the morning feel like its own daily battle for so many moms?

This week I sit down with Dr. Jenny Demark and Conrad Leung from Child Solutions, two of the three authors of Complex Kids, Simple Solutions, to talk about morning meltdowns, mom guilt, and what is actually happening when mornings fall apart.

We get into their framework, prepare, teach, and motivate, and how it applies to real families, including a story about an eight year old who went from daily meltdowns to meltdowns on only about one in ten days.

Key mom takeaways about morning routines, meltdowns, and mom guilt:

• A simple way to spot exactly where your morning is breaking down
• A real script for working backward from your leave time, step by step
• Why letting your kid help build the plan makes it stick
• What counts as praise that works, and why constant praise stops working
• Permission to let a rule slide without feeling like a bad, inconsistent parent

I also get honest about my own mornings, including the moment I catch myself sounding exactly like my own mother and the specific trap so many moms know: either I am patient, or I am a complete a-hole, nothing in between.

Resources:

• Complex Kids, Simple Solutions - check your local bookstore or library first. If you would rather order online: Amazon (affiliate link) or Amazon (non-affiliate link)
• Child Solutions: childsolutions.ca
• Child Solutions on Facebook and Instagram (@childsolutions)

About the guests: Dr. Jenny Demark is a psychologist in private practice in Ottawa, working with kids and families navigating developmental, learning, or behavioural concerns. Conrad Leung is a Registered Behaviour Analyst with the College of Psychologists and Behaviour Analysts of Ontario and a Board Certified Behaviour Analyst, focused on children with severe problem behaviours. Together with Dr. Linda Reinstein, they run Child Solutions in Ottawa and co-wrote Complex Kids, Simple Solutions.

If mom guilt shows up for you the way it shows up for me, Good Moms Get Mad is a free series built for exactly that.

Head to kaylahuszar.com/gmgm to sign up.

Why am I so hard on myself? Self-compassion for moms is hard when you have spent years trying to do it all "right." In this solo episode of Chill Like a Mother, a Canadian podcast for moms, I open with a quote from Nicola Jane Hobbs and introduce the undermothered series: what happens when a mother's own capacity could not stretch far enough to meet her child's emotional needs.

I share seven ways to practice self-compassion: learn how to build awareness of your feelings, discover the power of writing it down, find out how to talk to yourself like a friend, discover what happens when you stop assuming the worst, uncover a common trap in managing your own expectations, help yourself believe people are doing the best they can (including you), and discover why your words and actions need to match. Plus a bonus practice: talking to yourself the way you wish your mom had.

To see the full blog, my credentials, and complete show notes, head to kaylahuszar.com/blog/2020/how-to-be-gentle.

If you want support working through any of this, you can book a session with me. This fall, I am also starting a live UNDERMOTHERED mindful art group therapy series, you can email me @ hello@kaylahuszar.com

This content is for educational purposes and does not constitute clinical advice or a therapeutic relationship.

Mom guilt shows up in a lot of places, including the guilt around wanting your kid to play on their own. Kari Castro, an educator with over a decade in the classroom, joins Kayla to talk about how she taught her toddler to play independently, and why she had to ditch her own guilt to get there.

Kari shares her turning point: a move to a new city, a toddler with a little too much screen time to cope, and the moment she realized becoming the constant entertainment was burning her out.

Key mom takeaways:

• Why teaching independent play gets you called "lazy"
• The exact routine that got a toddler mom 20 minutes of real peace
• Independent play is a skill, not a personality trait
• Where mom guilt actually comes from
• What to say to yourself when the guilt hits

Kayla and Kari also get into the "good mom" pressure that hits hardest in summer and the stay-at-home mom myth.

To see the full blog, Kayla's credentials, and complete show notes, head to kaylahuszar.com/blog/how-to-get-kids-play-independently

This content is educational only and does not establish a therapist-client relationship. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, please contact 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, text HOME to 741741, or go to your nearest emergency room. Kayla Huszar is a Registered Social Worker licensed in Alberta, Saskatchewan, and Ontario.

Guest: Kari Castro, educator with a master's degree and over a decade in the classroom. Instagram: @eduplay.together

Guided Mindfulness Meditation for Moms

A short, calming meditation to help moms feel more grounded, relaxed, and centered. This episode uses breath, body awareness, and visualization to create a simple reset for busy days.

What you’ll get:

• A gentle body scan to release tension
• Breathwork to help calm the nervous system
• A peaceful visualization to ease overwhelm
• A quick reset you can return to anytime

Best for: moms who feel stressed, overstimulated, or mentally scattered

The pressure to make every moment magical, stay regulated at all times, and perform gentle parenting perfectly is exhausting. And it keeps coming up in sessions - so Kayla is pulling it from the archives for summer.

This conversation between Kayla and guests Anneke and Olivia from the Canadian Perinatal Mental Health Trainings group gets honest about where so much of that pressure actually comes from - and it may not be what you expect.

What this episode covers:

• When you need your kid's distress to stop
• Regulation is an ebb and flow between states - a flatline is masking
• The anger you are not showing is aging you
• You do not have to be a dog or build a fort to connect with your kids
• Your kids want to get to know you - the real, complex you

Book a free consult or session: https://kaylahuszar.janeapp.com

Mom guilt is one of the most talked-about experiences in motherhood - and one of the least understood. In episode 89 of Chill Like a Mother, Kayla sits down with Emily Rose MacDonald, host of The Sparkle Project podcast, certified motherhood studies practitioner, and single mom of two boys, to get into what mom guilt actually is, where it comes from, and what you can do about it.

Emily opens with a distinction that reframes the whole conversation: mom guilt is almost never just guilt. It's guilt plus shame. And those two things do very different things to a mom.

In this episode:

• Why what most moms call mom guilt may actually be toxic guilt in disguise - and what the difference means in practice
• Emily's real story from 2024: a separation, a season of survival, more screen time than she planned, and why she stands behind every choice she made
• Why the perfect mother myth was not written by mothers - and how cultural conditioning keeps so many moms measuring themselves against a standard they never actually chose
• Two specific things Emily recommends when toxic mom guilt shows up
• Why taking care of yourself and taking care of your kids may not be competing ideas at all

Emily Rose MacDonald is the host of The Sparkle Project podcast and co-founder of Mom Friends Collective. Find her on YouTube at @thesparkleprojectpod and on Instagram at @honestlyemilyrose.

Kayla Huszar is a mom guilt therapist and Registered Social Worker licensed in Alberta, Saskatchewan, and Ontario. Book a free consult at kaylahuszar.janeapp.com.