Does dating feel like an endless maze with no way out? Break free from the traps of modern dating and learn how to take control of your love life in this actionable, compassionate guide that will help you find your person and become your most dateable self.

As creators and hosts of the hit dating podcast Dateable, Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu have made breaking down the nuances of the ever-evolving dating world, and empowering the people within it, their purpose and passion. Drawing on a decade’s worth of research from speaking to thousands of daters and world-renowned experts, Julie and Yue have come to realize that everyone is dateable—it’s just the modern dating norms that keep us from falling in love.

Contrary to other dating books, How to Be Dateable isn’t a playbook of rules to follow or methods to hack your love life. But it will help you identify your dating strong suits and what’s getting in your way.

To personalize your reading experience, start off with a quiz that reveals your dating archetype (are you an Achiever, Dreamer, Energizer, Maverick, or Thinker?). Then, you’ll learn how to break free from the traps that continue to get in your way (The Expectation of Love on Demand, Settling Paradox, Validation Trap, and Relationship Chicken) and how to clear your path to love. Within the book, there are case studies, personal anecdotes, exercises, and self-assuring mantras designed to help you understand your core strengths, date on your terms, and find the relationship that’s right for you.

Written with the knowledge of experts and the warmth of a wise best friend, How to Be Dateable will help you create a dating life filled with joy, fulfillment, extraordinary connections, and love.